Words are so important. Words are attached to a meaning, and those meanings hold power. They impact us. 


I talk about that a lot with people, and it’s because I really believe that words shape our mindset, our life, and experience. This does not remove the struggles/strife—it merely channels your energy. 

Think about Mararu Emoto’s experience with the effects of words to food, and water.  He ran an experiment with three jars of rice from the same bag. One jar was labeled “I love you” the other “I hate you,” and the last jar was unmarked. He then put them in a common area and instructed all who might pass by to repeat these sentences to the jars overtime they came in proximity to them, and share the instructions with any new comers to the area. The unmarked jar was meant to be left a lone.

After a month with this treatment, the jar of rice assigned “I hate you” turned mostly black, the jar assigned “I love you” began to ferment giving off a pleasant aroma, but the neglected jar began to rot in blue/green colors—because in his notes Emoto said “he “ignored” rice fared the worst because negligence and indifference are the absolute worst things we can do to water, rice…and ourselves.

It’s clear that the energy we put into words goes out in the world, then effects it. 

Which is why it is so important that we choose the words we say and think very carefully—because ultimately there is ALWAYS someone listening. Who is that person? YOU.

Consciously and subconsciously YOU are always listening to the words you’re sharing with yourself—about yourself, about your circumstance, about others, about your goals, EVERYTHING. Even when you’re doing your best to ignore neglect those areas.

What words are you choosing?

Since I’ve become aware of how intently I’m listening to myself I have worked hard to be aggressively kind to myself. Complimenting myself when the time seemed right, thinking of the things I like/admire about myself more often than not, and choosing to be kind to myself in moments of disappointment/frustration.

I realized recently, that I have been neglecting certain parts of myself. The parts I struggle most with myself—my fears, my opportunities, my challenges, my Steve Buscemi teeth, my dyslexia, lisp, shape, changes in my body,…I’ve realized that they might be in a state of rot. 

I am equally vibrant and vulnerable. 

How do I speak to those vulnerable, lumpy parts within me?

Like anyone I'm nervous about moving forward with I'm choosing my words with the flitter simple honesty, and what I know.

I'm not clear what I want to say, but I want to be kind.

So, in the softest whisper I offer “I know you’re there. It’s okay. i’ve got us.”

Fundraiser for Brian and Anne Zemba - Every BODY counts!

Ann Fancy and Kacee Must will be leading a class raising money to support the recovery of Brian Zemba.

Brian, a dedicated yogi and beloved friend, suffered from a devastating aneurysm June 16th. And has since passed away.

Somerset Collection will be generously donating $20 per student to the Zemba Family.

The bigger the numbers, the greater the donation. We know the power of community is the only way to get through such a difficult time. If you do not practice yoga, please come, breathe and sit on a mat to support this wonderful couple and family. Every BODY counts, literally!

OUR GOAL: 500 students
IDEAL: 700 students


If you're unable to attend--YOU CAN STILL DONATE. 

DONATE TO THE O.Z. > http://bit.ly/2tNGQ3G


June 2017 Friendship Club

Saturday June 17, 1pm we're meeting for June's Friendship Club.

As you might know, this is a monthly gathering of brilliant beings to enjoy afternoon brunch foods. Get to know the people you know already better, and potentially make some new friends! 

This month we'll be focusing on Friendship Development.

This is the perfect chance to bring a friend, or perhaps someone you're just getting to know to further develop your connection. We'll be playing some get to each other games, enjoying the Emory's brunch fries, and having a good time.

Please RSVP by Wednesday June 14 to reserve your seat!

RSVP on our Facebook event > HERE

May 2017 Friendship Club

May’s meet up is just a few days away! This is our third meet up, and I am so excited for it. We will be meeting Saturday May 20, 1pm at the Emory in Ferndale. 

Bring a friend, an open mind, and a hungry tummy. (Insider tip—the brunch fries are amazing). RSVP: http://bit.ly/2qzYDOo

Now that we have the business stuff out of the way, let’s get to the real business of Friendship Club. 


This month we’re looking at Relationship Management, particularly the kindness of no. 

Yeah, the word no can be one of the nicest things you say to someone. 

Many people see no as a bad word. The worst word. A nasty word. Something said too often, something that keeps us from living our best life, or something we use as an excuse keep others away from us. As so many pairs of opposites, when we think no, we also think of it’s counter-part ‘yes.’

Our culture teaches us that for every hero there is also a villain, for the dark there is a the light, a good to the bad. Since no is used to “stop” something, it’s seen as bad, and as yes is used to “start/continue” something it’s seen as good. 

While I agree in many ways that saying yes to more opportunities certainly opens more doors to, I have to ask the question are they doors you want to enter?  The narrative that encourages the power of ‘yes’ and at the same time vilify the power of ‘no’ is just too simple. 

In reality,  a no you mean is far kinder than a yes you don’t.

This is not an invitation to start saying ‘no’ to everything—but rather an encouragement to seek greater balance, and speak your truth. 

So this month’s challenge; think of a time you said “no” to a friend and meant it, and what happened because of it, or perhaps a time you said “yes” to a friend and did not mean it and what happened then.

Curious about how you can say no without being hurtful?I see it as a simple 3 step process;

Identify your truth. To all things there is a balance, situations you agree or decline because they serve your longterm highest value. Instinctively you know what will serve you, and what will not, (and maybe you just need participate). If you’re uncertain sit with yourself even for just a moment, to determine your response. 

Declare your truth. Be it yes/no, it’s important to be concise and direct. Be clear about what you are/are not available for, and don’t feel pressured to have to answer why/why not type questions. By being concise and direct you free yourself from any fluff-type discussions, as well as the risk of seeming mean for no reason.

Hold the boundary. If challenged, go back to step 1; Identify your Truth, if it still rings true see step 2; Declare your Truth, and then you have to hold the boundary. Your first priority should always be to take care of yourself first, so making sure your boundary is held is important. Your boundary isn’t a weapon meat to hurt the other party, but rather identify the space your relationship can occupy. If they see it differently, they may need time to change perspective. 

As long as your intention is tied to the truth of your highest value, you articulate it in a concise and productive manner, and hold the boundary to remind all involved (including you) the value of your truth—there should be no harm no foul.

I look forward to hearing about your kind no’s!!!

Thank you friend! I look forward to seeing you, meeting you, and I love you—-bye!!!

April 2017 Friendship Club

I am so excited for our next Friendship Club meeting on Saturday April 15, 1pm at the Emory in Ferndale. 

As with every meeting it's meant to provide space for friends to practice the three main focuses of the club; communication skills, relationship management, and friendship development. This meeting we will be focusing on: small talk.

This si where you get to earn your merit badge--I offer you the first ever Friendship Club Challenge.


April 2017 Friendship Club CHALLENGE: BRING A QUESTION.


Small talk isn’t everyone’s favorite part of getting to know someone—but it is SO important. It’s the foundation from which we build our connection to have strong relationships.

I find that utilizing the “where” questions—“Where are you from?”, “Where do you work?”, “Where did you go to school?”—are often the questions that people feel are the most routine, and least special of questions. While there is IMMENSE VALUE in the answers to these questions, you might not feel keen to be asked, or use these questions during Friendship Club.

So, do a little prep work.

You are the master of your conversation, create the questions you’d like to use while getting to know someone. Try to imagine questions you’d like to be asked, or what kinds of questions would you like to answer. Perhaps think of themes (movies, video games, activities, crafts, recipes, philosophies, etc.) that you’re interested in and shape your questions around that.  

As we’re making friendships, be weary of questions that might be seen as to invasive or vulgar.

You’re brilliant, you’ll come up with something amazing. Even if it isn’t, it doesn’t matter—you’ll learn from it and move on.


  • How do you like expressing yourself creatively?

  • What’s your favorite story about yourself that you never feel like you can tell?

  • Do you have a favorite writing utensil?

  • Who is your favorite musician lately?

  • When is your next big adventure?

Don’t stress yourself out too much, just take a few moments to think about it and be unafraid to try!

I look forward to being friends.

March 2017 Friendship Club

Friendship Club is a monthly meeting that allows space for friends to practice the conversational dance of getting to know one another. These might be old chums, familiar acquaintances, or fresh friends. This is your chance to enjoy some brunch, and connect with those around you.

Our first meeting with be Saturday March 25 at 1pm at The Emory in Ferndale.

This is a casual space with lots of room to spread out and chat.  

If you’d like to take a look at the menu, or get information about the restaurant or parking in Ferndale visit: http://www.theemoryferndale.com/welcome

Rules of Friendship Club:

  • BE YOURSELF. The most exciting thing about you is the tremendous, delightful, complicated YOUNESS—so come as you are. No need to try to act cool, one up, or put anyone down. You’re awesome. You’re enough. Just be you.

  • BE A GOOD LISTENER. Conversation is the primary activity of Friendship Club. Speaking is important—it’s vital to share. It is equally important that you practice your listening skills to really hear your conversation partner out.

    • Best Listening Practices

  • Maintain eye contact, and be aware of the speaker’s nonverbal cues

  • Minimize distractions

  • Ask questions related to speaker’s story/observation

One last thing, please pay your bill. There is no entrance fee for Friendship Club, just a simple request to handle your share. Each member will be responsible for paying for their individual meal.

I look forward to being your friend!

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